Most people don’t know what an ideal Valentine’s Day is. But they do know what social media and society has insinuated makes the perfect date or gift. According to society, it should be filled with flowers, chocolate, extravagant gifts and Instagrammable moments.
There are plenty of articles and guides telling readers what will make this the “best” Valentine’s Day or what someone should get their significant other. But do they really know what makes the perfect Valentine’s Day? Is that really what matters?
Sophomore Adrista Ramirez, who is in a long distance relationship, doesn’t think so.
Ramirez believes society has commercialized and materialized Valentine’s Day. It seems like a day where people market the idea of “the bigger the gift the better.” However, being in a long distance relationship has made Ramirez value the simplicity in the moments and gifts.
She feels comfortable enough with her partner to keep things casual and doesn’t seek to satisfy society’s standards.
“I don’t feel pressured to do something with him because I know we have an understanding in our relationship and a big enough bond to know the difference,” said Ramirez.
Being in a long distance relationship, Valentine's Day has become a reason for her boyfriend to make the trip up to SPU rather than a reason to appreciate her because society says so. Sometimes she finds herself in the average movie/dinner date for Valentine’s Day but she knows there is more to it.
“You don’t always need a specific day just to show your appreciation for them so I feel like it’s more of what society has brought upon,” said Ramirez. “Yeah we do celebrate it especially now since we hardly see each other but I would have to say it’s still about us being in each other’s presence rather than the flashy things and the gifts.”
Sophomore Franz Yabis has a similar mindset.
She’s seen how social media has tricked people into believing they have to do extravagant gestures to prove their love for someone.
“I know people like to go on one-night stands on Valentine’s Day and yeah I guess you can go all out for that one night,” said Yabis. “But I think if you’ve been dating for like long enough you don’t need to have this one specific day to do something big.”
Her and her boyfriend have been dating for almost two years.
A typical fun date for them is going out to eat and ice skating, which she says is probably what they will do on Valentine’s Day weekend. However, for them it’s just another regular date.
“We go out to dinner all the time. For us, Valentine’s Day isn’t like specific like they want it to be on social media,” she says.
Biology majors Ambika Ram and Oswaldo Lobo, feel the pressure of making this Valentine’s Day special but only because it's the day before their first anniversary. But they also don't see Valentine's Day has an important thing.
“I’m comfortable with anything but if I really had to do something I would want to go somewhere just because it’s our first time like if we were doing this before I would be okay being home but I kind of want to celebrate it. I guess it makes it special,” said Ram.
Most couples believe showing someone you appreciate them should be an everyday thing, not just on one specific day.
To most Valentine's Day is just another day.
“I just want to do whatever,” said Lobo. “It’s really if you’re happy, I’m happy.”